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How can I get that classy updo prom or formal hairstyle? First you need medium to long length hair. You will also need some ponytail holders, gel, and long pins. The trick to getting your updo to look its best is to use several of these pins in different directions to hold your hair in place. Dont rely on too much hair gel as this just makes your hair stiff. You want your hair to be able to withstand the humidity, but also to be touchable by your date.

You want your curls to be loose. The looser and bigger the curls, the cuter you will look. First, pull your hair up, use some baby powder to add fullness and then tease your hair. Other looks are more classic, like the French Twist. You have to slick back your hair with gel. Part it on the side and pull the hair down. You may need the help of a hair rat. No, not a real rat. You can get this at a beauty supply store. It will help you pull your hair down if you have real smooth hair. You will still need lots of long pins.

Starting with just straight hair, you can use large curlers to get those nice big curls. Once you have them, you can position them in place on top of your head, towards the back. You dont want your hairstyle to make your face look too long, unless you have a round face, and then it will help balance your geometry. You can use shine serum to give you that sleek sophisticated look. Be sure to use plenty of pins, flexible hairspray, not the max hold kind, and gel if you need it.

Experimentation before prom will be the key. Use what works best for your hair. Find some pictures on the web; try it out with these ides using the pins, gel, and hairspray.

Stuart Simpson
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Nearly all of us have had to deal with acne at some point in our lives. This embarrassing skin problem usually affects the face or quite possibly the neck or down the chest. However some people also develop acne breakouts on their back, usually in the form of pimples, blackheads or other forms of acne similar to what develops on other areas of the body.

Much like facial acne, there is no single cause for the formation of acne on the back. However, experts presume that its formation might be due to the same type of factors as facial acne or other forms of acne, which are possibly causes by overproduction of the sebaceous glands around puberty or during other times when our body experiences significant hormonal changes.

However other factors might contribute to the formation of acne on the back which are specific factors to acne development on this area of the body. For instance, tight clothing might be one possible culprit. By wearing tight clothing, this forces perspiration from the skin to be trapped against your skin which can lead to irritation. Also carrying a heavy bag or backpack can also cause irritation in areas where the strap presses against the back and shoulders. Irritation causes by the rubbing motion of carrying such a bag can cause some people to develop back acne.

Another thing that makes back acne different than other forms of acne is that what you eat doesn't appear to have as much of an affect on acne development on this region of the body as it does in the case of facial acne. Although if you have back acne you might also have acne in other places where diet might play a role in acne development. In addition, since there's no conclusive evidence as to the effect diet has on back acne development, it might not be a bad idea to adjust your diet for a period of time just to see if it improves your results.

Moderate cases of back acne can be treated in much the same way as other acne, by using over-the-counter products or prescription medications. However, when back acne becomes severe, causing cysts and other serious skin damage, it is important to seek out the expertise of a dermatologist or other skin care specialist to prevent possible damage to those areas of the skin. This will help minimize the damage and possible scarring that might result from serious cases of back acne.

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Copy that inspires larger donations, motivates more advocacy, or spurs greater response of any kind begins with knowing your donor, your prospect, your audience. That's why a fundamental rule of writing strong copy is... "Know Thy Audience."

Knowing doesn't refer to mere demographics or geographic segments of the population. Deep, powerful knowledge of your audience comes from psychographics. Their desires, fears, beliefs, frustrations, interests, and past donating preferences.

So how do you get to know them? What are the tools that reveal donor thinking and psychographics?

• Study complaint letters you receive. They usually reveal a great deal about your donor's expectations and feelings. Study any letters from donors and prospective donors.
• Examine the mailing list data card. Begin near the top of the card. Here is a useful description of what the prospects have responded to or donated to in the past. Next is the profile data. I recommend you be skeptical of this information. Finally, the golden data on the card comes from the usage history. These are "competitors" who have used the list for continuous runs.

Take a close look at who else is successfully using the list. Study their web sites, publications, and copies of their mailings. Learn about their mission as it compares to yours. All this reveals insight into what emotions motivate the donors.

• Talk to your major donors. Have someone in your organization in a high position make the phone call - such as the Executive Director, Director of Development, or possibly someone on the board. First thank them for their generosity. Then ask them a few questions about why they give to your mission. What do they like best about what you're doing? I strongly recommend making these calls.
• Do what they do. Check out the magazines, books, newsletters, web sites, ads, and products targeted for your donors and prospects. Examine them and get a feel for what's working.

Armed with this knowledge you can "become" the donor or prospect. You understand how they think and what they think about. You know their beliefs; what keeps them awake at night; and what they respond to.

And this is the foundation for great copy that hits your donor's hot button... triggers an emotional reaction... and motivates them to act - to donate. Your fundraising efforts will improve when you know your donors and you write copy that resonates with them based on this knowledge.

Karen Zapp is a freelance fundraising and sales writer, and the owner of PK Scribe, LLC (http://www.PKscribe.com/). She specializes in uniquely written copy that not only touches readers at profoundly deep levels; but does so intellectually, emotionally, and personally. Her distinct delivery of this triple combination can generate high response rates for your fundraising and marketing campaigns.

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How can one persons needs be met if the other is not ready to give what is required to allow a romantic relationship to evolve into a meaningful lifelong union?

If one person is ready to move forward, ready to create a more intimate connection, and the other is not, what then?

Many people could have reached the level of intimacy and commitment they desired if they had only received the patience, compassion, and understanding of the other. Yet many people are childish when it comes to matters of the heart. Many do not have the patience to work on a relationship if it does not fulfill all of their expectations as quickly as they would like. As a result, you have breakups, people longing for each other, people with pain in their hearts, when simple compassion and understanding could have brought them all they desired over time.

Many people end relationships because they do not understand that friendship is the key that they need to build trust and enjoy the company of the other without all the formal dating or courtship behaviors.

Yes, courtship, dating, sex, romance are all vital to a romantic relationship, but there are many people who have issues of intimacy to work through first. Many people need to go slowly and build trust, reaching a certain comfort level with someone before they can commit themselves. So in this case, if one is ready for a committed, exclusive relationship and the other is not, instead of hastily and prematurely ending the relationship, turn it into a friendship.

Stop the pressures of dating and courtship. Allow yourselves to bond in a deep, respectful, and trusting union as friends, as best friends.

If the attraction is there, if the chemistry is right, if the two of you have much in common and share meaningful goals, why should that beautiful experience be ended completely?

Instead, you can continue the growth and development of your friendship, which, after all, is the true foundation of any real marriage.

So if you are ready for commitment and your partner is not, release the pressure and just be friends. Best friends. No sex, no dates, no candlelight intimacy. You will find that as the bond of friendship grows, as the trust deepens, the one who was not previously ready suddenly is ready. And you have been there all along. You reached from your heart to give understanding instead of demanding a commitment of emotions and actions the other was just not ready to give.

Time heals fear. Time builds trust, and love grows over time.

You may find, however, that the physical chemistry is still strong. If you genuinely want to share love-making or passion with each other, do not deny this or suppress it, because to do so causes tension. Go with the flow of your genuine feelings. If you feel attracted to each other, show it. If you want to sleep together and hold each other, do so!

There is no wrong in showing love. The wrong is to deny your love, your chemistry, and your feelings only to conform to a rigid belief or should with regard to societys dating or courtship expectations. There is no should, there is only truth. If you feel love and attraction, dont withhold it; show it.

If one of you desires a monogamous relationship and the other is simply not ready for that, then you must decide what is most important to you: genuinely sharing the time you do have together or settling for not having each other in your lives at all.

When you allow the word should to control your life, you find that you are no longer in control of achieving all you want. This is not the same as settling. Settling is when you deny what is genuinely in your heart because your head tells you it is wrong and that you should do or not do something.

Is it truly wrong to sleep with someone you adore and are physically attracted to just because you are not ready to make a formal monogamous commitment? No.

Is it genuinely wrong to sleep with someone you care for deeply and are attracted to because it is not an exclusive, monogamous relationship?

No

The only should that can appropriately govern your life is that you should do what is genuinely in your heart. No matter what society tells you, no matter what anybody tells you, if it is true and right in your heart, then it is true and right for you. That is being your own best friend as well as a best friend with the one you love but are not formally committed to.

Commit to the genuine truth in your heart. Express that, and you will feel validated, whole, and complete within.

One reason relationships fail is that one person seeks validation by the other. But when you validate your own worth, when you receive respect and admiration from yourself and do not need it to come from the other, then you will possess a quality that is the foundation of pure love: the ability to give.

To give understanding in place of expectation.
To give patience in place of haste.
To give compassion in place of ego fulfillment.
To give friendship instead of demanding a commitment
the other may not be ready to make.

For as you sow, so shall you reap. As you give, so will you be given to in return. As you reach out of your comfort zone to be there for the other, you will find that in time, they will reach out of their comfort zone to return your goodness to you.

They will give, they will commit to you, for you will have shown them that you are worthy of their commitment, and they shall ask you to share your life with them.

For it is the one who endures both the good times and the difficult times who ultimately wins the love, respect, admiration, and commitment from the other. It is very rare to have someone in your life who will be there for you as a true friend; this is a gift.

Relationships are testing grounds; they test the bond, the endurance, the respect for oneself and for the other.

How can you expect someone to make a lifelong commitment to you if they do not first see that you are capable of meeting the challenges that arise during the early stages of a relationship?

You see, life brings challenge. Life brings circumstances that you must overcome. If you love a boyfriend or girlfriend, and they cannot be there for you through the early challenges of the relationship, how can you possibly expect them to commit to you for life?

Couples who have successfully worked through the challenges of their relationship will tell you that it requires work on self and beyond the needs of self to truly be there for the other; it takes work to build a relationship that can endure the tests of life and the test of time.

When youre not ready, but you cant let go

Life will keep giving you the same challenge in all of your personal relationships until you face it head on and work it through.

For example, if you have a problem with commitment or intimacy, you will find that same challenge in each relationship, until one day you meet that one person who causes you to look within to search your heart to find the answer. For when you find true love, another soul with whom you feel an indescribable bond, that person will cause you to seek within to heal the problem that blocks the flow of happiness you deserve in your life.

And when you do seek within for a solution, you will have all you truly desire. If you do not, then you shall live with regret. To seek or not to seek is always your choice.

You can choose to run from one empty relationship to another, year after year, or you can choose to realize that fulfillment comes when the bonds of love and friendship are combined, and that those bonds are far too valuable and precious to discard once you have found the one person who causes you to turn yourself around. When you have healed through that relationship, you will be ready to commit yourself to that person with true love.

Copyright by Barbara Rose, All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth and Your Life. Published by The Rose Group (2003) ISBN: 097414570X

Barbara Rose, Ph.D. is the best selling author of nine books including If God Hears Me, I Want an Answer!, Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE, and Know Yourself. She is an internationally recognized expert in personal transformation, relationships, consciousness and spiritual awakening, and a pioneering force in incorporating Higher Self Communication, the nondenominational study and integration of humanity's God Nature into modern personal growth and spiritual evolution. Dr. Rose is known for providing life changing answers, quick practical coaching and deep spiritual wisdom to people worldwide as the Founder and Director of IHSC, Institute of Higher Self Communication. Her highly acclaimed books, public speaking events, spiritual intensives, teleseminars, webcasts, and internationally published articles have transformed the lives of thousands across the globe. Dr. Rose works in cooperation with some of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time, to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity.